Sci-Fi Circuit: ‘The Machine’ – Near Future Grounded Sci-Fi
A new Sci-Fi Circuit article over at ScriptMag drawing on insights from The Machine.
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Riding the emotional ups and downs of writing
Note from Jenna: This guest post from one of my screenwriting colleagues and best friends, Isabel Holtreman. Isabel is a talented writer and is one of my most trusted feedback sources, both for my writing itself and for emotional support around the challenges of writing. I’m thrilled she was willing to take the time to talk with us today about navigating the emotional ups and downs of writing, and how she does it.
Be sure and leave a comment at the end of the post and let us know what inspired you.
How to Ride the Emotional Roller Coaster of Being a Writer
by Isabel Holtreman
I’m in marketing mode. I’ve never really taken marketing seriously until now, but it’s that time — the time where you realize that you must push yourself out of the realm of amateur and finally go pro.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve noticed some emotions coming up around where I am in my writing career:
- I miss working on story, something I can’t seem to do while I’m marketing. It engages a different part of my brain.
- I feel like an imposter, like at any moment, someone will find out that I’m not a writer at all, but some big fake who’s trying to fool the world.
- I’m elated when someone asks to read my work, but am devastated when a few days go by without a request.
I experience a similar thing when I’m in writing mode:
- I feel like I should be marketing something, because if I don’t, I’ll never make any money as a writer which will negate my newly acquired professional status.
- I feel like an imposter, like at any moment, someone will find out that I’m not a writer at all, but some big fake who’s trying to fool the world.
- I’m elated when story is flowing and everything is clicking, then devastated when I get stuck or can’t find a way to solve a story problem.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I’m sure it does. Being a writer is hard work. And I’m not just talking about the work itself. It’s difficult to stay even, to function in society, to not allow ourselves to fall into the pit of despair, and keep ourselves from paralyzing.
So, how do we deal with this emotional roller coaster without driving ourselves or our loved ones insane?
And perhaps even more importantly, without giving up on the dream?
Well, once again, we have to be willing to hunker down and do the work. Whether you decide to do the work on paper as I do (or on a computer) and journal, or decide to talk to someone, the fact is, the emotions must be acknowledged, brought to the surface, and observed for all they really are: Feelings.
Feelings are not ultimate truths.
They are simply clues, little alarms that lead us to overcoming our fears, and it’s our job to allow the feeling to flow, jump into our logical minds and say “Oh. Wow. There’s that feeling again. Okay, it’s just a feeling,” then take a step, ANY STEP toward overcoming it and moving forward.
Here are a few tips that have worked for me:
- Cry. I know, I know. It seems counter-intuitive, but it’s a quick way to get the feelings out. Set a timer and cry for 5 minutes, then wipe your eyes and write a sentence. It doesn’t matter whether it’s in a journal or novel or script. The act of writing breeds more writing.
- “It’s just a feeling, it’s not truth.” I repeat this phrase to myself a lot. It helps to help put feelings into perspective and understand that an emotion is just an emotion, a temporary, fleeting thing and that it doesn’t have to stop me.
- Give yourself a break. There’s no use trying to power through if your emotions are overpowering you. For those minutes or hours when you’re feeling at your lowest, step away from the work and connect to your heart, your humanity. Playing with a child, going for a walk, kissing a spouse, getting a hug — all these things put our lives into perspective and help us to realize that writing is what we do and not who we are.
- Journal. This has been the single most effective tool I’ve used for dealing with my emotions, period. Allow your feelings to flow on paper or on your computer for as long as you need, then ask yourself this question: “How can I turn this around?” With a little practice, you’ll find a ray of hope that will pull you out of your fear, anger or sorrow.
All of these tools do one very important thing: they teach us how to step back, observe, and process emotions while we’re still feeling them, which almost immediately reduces their power over us.
The roller coaster of emotions will always be part of the writer’s life, but with a little perspective and a few good tools, we can minimize the ups and downs, find a little peace, and get back to work.
Isabel Holtreman is an optioned screenwriter and consultant with a master’s degree in screenwriting from Cal State.
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Warmly,
Learning to finish
A note from Jenna: This guest post from the highly talented coach and writer, Jill Winski — whom I’m proud to have serving as a coach for my writing community — offers insights for writers who struggle to finish their writing projects.
Read on to find out about what Jill has learned from her own process and from participating in the writing community.
Learning to finish
by Jill Winski
For more than two and a half years, I’ve been a participant in Jenna’s writing community, and I’ve coached a small group in the writing community for almost that long.
In some ways, I now divide my life into the pre-writing community and during-writing community eras. That’s because, in the writing community, I’ve learned how to finish a novel draft. Before the writing community, I knew how to make it about two-thirds of the way through.
And then — I’d stop.
There’s this quote from Neil Gaiman that one of my group members shared recently:
“Whatever it takes to finish things, finish. You will learn more from a glorious failure than you ever will from something you never finished.”
I don’t think this is always true for everything — some things are simply not worth finishing — but there is certainly a lot of truth there for me.
On finishing short stories
When I was in grad school, I learned to write — and finish — a short story. Because I carried my short stories to completion — even if they sucked — I learned a certain amount about the movement of a short story, about the promises set up in it, and about fulfilling those promises to the reader by the end. I wrote a good amount of short stories, and even had some of them published. I still have tons to learn about the art of short story writing, but, in finishing, I was able to let my own process truly sink in, let the story itself sink into my bones, and learn what could be cut away and what needed to emerge in the next draft.
On finishing novels
With novels, I never made it this far. When I joined the writing community, I had two unfinished novel drafts. I had stopped writing them because I got lost.
I started writing the second novel because I believed I was bored with the first.
And the same thing happened.
I got lost.
I got stuck.
And I made the fact that I was lost and stuck mean that I was not a good writer. I didn’t decide this one day; it was sort of a “happening” over time, after grad school ended and I was no longer in as much contact with fellow writers.
I forgot — or maybe I never really understood — that all writers struggled. The longer I let my unfinished novels sit, the longer the drafts collected dust bunnies and cat hair in a pile next to my desk, the more sure I became that I had failed.
It’s not failure, it’s information
But one of my favorite mantras of the past couple of years is: “It’s not failure, it’s information”.
And that was where the writing community came in for me. As part of logging in our daily progress, we answer a series of questions designed to bring awareness to our writing habit and process.
Awareness. For twenty years it’s been one of the most important themes in my life, but guess what? I never thought to apply it to my writing process.
I believed, for years, that writing just meant sitting down and pushing through even when it was hard.
And that worked. Until I got really, really stuck. And then it didn’t work anymore.
A novel is a vast thing, an unwieldy thing, a thorny thing. The opportunities to get lost, to go off the chosen path, are plentiful.
The more I logged in my daily progress in the writing community and answered the questions, the more I became aware that my problem was this: I was afraid of being wrong. I was afraid of being mediocre. I was terrified of writing a shitty first draft. I just hadn’t known it before.
I actually believed I was bored
I was so afraid to know I was afraid that I’d actually believed I was bored.
It was one thing to write a shitty first draft of a short story; short stories were, by definition, short, and I could take a deep breath, jump in, and hope to come out on the other side in a couple of weeks.
But to write an entire draft of a novel and be, well, bad — for it to be far, far less than the vision of greatness I held in my head — seemed like too much.
Except I realized that’s exactly what I needed to do. And I only realized it by pausing enough to notice the thoughts I was having about my writing, about myself as a writer, and question them.
At the end of my second session in the writing community, I finished my novel draft.
And a few months later, I went on to finish another.
I’ve seen this happen for the group members I coach in the writing community, too. It’s incredibly exciting to see a fellow writer who’s been on a long journey reach a point of completion. And one of the biggest things I’ve learned while coaching in the writing community is that most of us have more days that feel like struggle than days where we feel “in the flow”.
And yet we’re all learning to finish, anyway.
My completed drafts do not match the vision I held in my head. But only in finishing did I actually see what was there, and only in finishing could I build the foundation for a better draft. I’m not saying we must always finish — but if we truly want to, we owe it to ourselves to give ourselves that gift.
Jill Winski is a certified life coach who offers her clients support for the vulnerability that comes with creativity. She continues her adventures in the often-rocky terrain of fiction and nonfiction, and you can find her online at www.jillwinski.com.
The right kind of writing feedback — and when to get it
Much of what's out there in terms of writing support revolves around getting feedback, whether it's through private coaching, mentoring, consulting, editors, agents, or writing groups.
Good feedback can be a wonderful thing (though surprisingly, sometimes it isn't).
Not-so-good feedback, on the other hand, can be spirit-damaging and procrastination-inducing for writers -- and even more so for the sensitive, thoughtful writers among us (myself included).
Some people argue that without feedback, our writing will never improve, while others say we need to focus on developing and hearing our own voices in our writing, and that critiques simply make it hard to learn our own way.
But what is good feedback, really?
Is "good" feedback an ego stroke, where your friends and family tell you how great your work is?
My answer is no.
Is "good" feedback a ruthless, gloves-off, in your face slam of your work that leaves you reeling?
Um, no again.
Good feedback -- in my opinion -- is the kind of feedback that helps a writer do what he or she is trying to do. Good feedback is in line with the vision of the writer's project and helps him or her make it better. It's delivered in a thoughtful, caring tone, without the use of pejorative, labeling terms like "cliché, melodramatic, bad, good, boring, unoriginal", etc, while still clearly and directly pointing to issues and questions that the reader notices. The reader also provides their feedback subjectively, which means that it's conveyed in an "in my opinion" tone with his or her notes, as opposed to an authoritative, "this is the only way it can be" perspective.
Good feedback is also extremely honest, while still being compassionate. When I read for someone, I bring up everything that concerns me that is appropriate to where the writer is on that stage of their writing process. In other words, if I read a script where I can't see the story through the language choices, that's where my feedback starts. If the script is polished to a high sheen, I can give deeper structural, plot, and character motivation notes. (And that's where it really gets fun.)
Bad feedback, on the other hand, is pejorative, rude, condescending, and often just downright snarky. It challenges the writer's very attempts at writing. It is emotionally damaging. It is not kind or thoughtful or sensitive. It creates a creative wound in the writer that takes days, months, and sometimes even years to heal from. It's beyond me why any "consultant" would take it upon themselves to treat another human being in such an inappropriate way.
When good feedback is not such a good thing
Interestingly, sometimes "good" feedback can be just as paralyzing as bad feedback. I've talked to more than a few writers who have received extremely encouraging feedback from potential agents or managers -- usually something along the lines of "this first chapter is terrific, when you finish the rest, I definitely want to read it." But if the writer isn't done with the project, it can lead to a tremendous amounts of pressure to "live up" to the quality of the first (usually highly polished) chapter.
That pressure, in turn, leads to perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis. Ack!
On choosing feedback sources
My advice when it comes to getting feedback is:
- IF you choose to get feedback, get your earliest feedback from only your most trusted sources, preferably a fellow writer (as opposed to unqualified family and friends) who knows how to deliver compassionate, productive feedback.
- With any further feedback you get, ask for it from professionals that you pay, know, like and trust. Then listen to them.
- Take ALL feedback with a grain of salt. Is it in alignment with your vision? Does it resonate for you internally? If so, listen. If not, take what works and move on.
- Pay attention to notes that have an element of truth to them, even if the specifics don't resonate for you. It's worth delving deeper into the notes to try to understand the why behind what a reader is suggesting. Sometimes the detailed suggestions don't work for you, but the underlying note is accurate and highly useful. I once had a note from a reader where he clearly didn't "get" what my story was about. But rather than tossing the note out the window, I thought, "Hmm, if he's not getting the core of the story I'm wanting to tell, how I can rewrite it in a way that would make what I'm trying to do come through more clearly?" It was a valuable lesson for me, and I'm so glad I stayed with it because it taught me a great deal about my own writing process.
- Avoid getting feedback until you're really ready for it. Many writers rush to get feedback, looking for validation and encouragement, or get it from so many different gurus and sources that their heads are spinning trying to integrate all of it. While I can't give you a specific guideline, what I'm focusing on myself is taking things farther than I think I can go on my own before reaching out for feedback, and trying minimize the number of sources so I can deal with one set of notes at a time, a trick I learned from my mentor Hal.
The power of critique-free writing support
I've seen so many writers struggle with pain and paralysis after receiving feedback -- even good feedback -- that I've come to believe firmly in the value of ADDITIONAL support for writers in the form of critique-free writing support. This is the kind of support that focuses on the process, habit, and motivation behind writing, rather than on critiquing the content of it. (If you're wanting this kind of support for yourself, my online Called to Write community is a resource you might like to check out.)
In my estimation, writers need both kinds of support to see their writing through -- support for their craft and support for their practice or habit of writing:
- Without compassionate feedback, mentoring, and content support, we can flounder when it comes to solving our story or writing problems.
- Without writing practice support, we can have trouble showing up to the page on a regular basis to write.
- And sometimes, after receiving challenging feedback, we need help getting back to the page to write. Finding support for yourself to do that is an incredible gift.
Thanks for reading!
I always love to hear what you think in the comments.
Warmly,
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Sci-Fi Circuit: Solving the Problem of Exposition in Sci-Fi
A new article over on the ScriptMag blog, about the challenges of keeping exposition under control when writing sci-fi.
One of the challenges with writing good science fiction is introducing not only the world itself, but any story background needed to set the stage for what’s to come. In my recent interview with Amazon Studios-optioned Adam Pachter, he mentioned his pet peeve about screenwriters using voiceover to get away with exposition that might… [read more at ScriptMag]
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